People say that motherhood teaches you to be patient.
I always assumed it meant patience to deal with your little one, a helpless, innocent and curious being.
If you are someone who thinks too fast and too much, oftentimes your hand can't keep up with your mind. I am like that. I want to do multiple things at once, I even read 2-3 books at a time (at least I used to!)… because I want to catch up with the world. I want a chance at being wise. I want to keep becoming a better version of myself.
This is perhaps also the reason why I started a small business, because it gave me an avenue to learn things beyond my comfort zone, so scary but also so exciting!
Circling back to the past few months, I now call “QuirkyHippieDecor” my naptime business, because I can only work 1-2 hours a day when the baby sleeps.
I no longer have the luxury of spending an entire morning curling with a book, nor an entire evening hunched over on my table dotting or drawing.
But here is what I have learnt in the past 9 months-
Motherhood has given me the calm to realize that I set my own targets, and they are flexible. I don't have to achieve a certain professional title just because someone else my age has, or because based on my education, I am expected to. I don't have to reach a 100 sales a month, at the expense of family time.
It's not easy for me at all, but I am slowly understanding that
No, this doesn't not mean I am no longer ambitious. On the contrary, I now have perspective. Perhaps I have now really understood what prioritization is. This is baby step one for me.
Next step will be balance - how do I manage everything without feeling burnt out, especially as I now prepare to get back to the corporate world post maternity leave.
Come to think of it, this journey of motherhood is just like any other professional role I have held. It tests me everyday, and all the obstacles that come my way need creative problem solving. I need to organize my life, and make every second count.
What an amazing realization this is!
Of course, motherhood gives me a perk no job will- unconditional love and lots of cuddles!